Listening—-one of the best things one can do for someone who is grieving–is to listen to them–just listen–just be with them. So often, people don’t know what to say, and so they say–well–really stupid things– Things to try to “fix”, things to try to make the one grieving, “feel better.” Perhaps there is a reason one can’t think of what to say–perhaps the reason is–that nothing needs to be said, but instead listening needs to happen.
After we lost Sean, some dear friends who were in the Pastorate, met with us once a week, for over a year, and they listened to us–and they gave us books to read, and they “were there” for us. During one of our times together, I was telling our friends–that I could sense God’s presence with me, but God was not saying anything to me–He was “silent.”
Recently, I was reading a friend’s blog–and she discussed this idea of listening, and she discussed how God is listening to us. Suddenly, it hit me. When I sensed God’s presence–but He was silent–He was listening to me. He was just being with me.
He wasn’t trying to fix my pain. He wasn’t trying to “make me feel better”, He was just listening.
Even as I write these things–I cry. Lord knows, I need to be fixed. Lord, knows, I need to feel better. Yet God listened. And in the listening, it was communicated, “ I am here for you. You are accepted by Me. You belong to me. You are my beloved. You belong to Me. You are accepted by Me. I am here for you.”
All these things and more were communicated in the listening.
Listening—sometimes it is the best thing, it is the only thing….that is needed by the one who is grieving.