“He did this terrible thing. I just hate him!!”
“No Mom, this is what really happened…”
And so the conflict continues…and parents around the world are faced with strife and conflict between their children.
As a parent, I can usually see both sides of the conflict. Both people have a legitimate grievance, and both have a reason to feel justified in their anger. Yet, because I love both parties intensely, I want them to share that same love for each other—a love that covers a multitude of sins.
How I wish they could see each other through my eyes—they would see the hurt places in the other; they would have a well of love for the other; they would see the other’s perspective. Then perhaps they could look past their own hurt, and forgive, and be forgiven.
This is our Heavenly Father’s perspective, and this is every good parent’s perspective. We want our children to love one another.
That’s it—we want our children to love one another—and all that love encompasses—forgiving, giving and serving.
Sometimes, as a parent, we actually see this happening, we see the love, we see the forgiving, we see the serving. It is one of the most beautiful things to behold.
What parent doesn’t smile to see their children hug? What parent isn’t encouraged to hear one child praise another? Or offer to help each other?
When my son Sean was alive, he had a sibling that angered him a great deal. I would hear his story of woe about this sibling, and vice versa. The summer before he passed away, he made peace with this sibling. Their relationship was healed. They confided in each other, they helped each other, they loved each other, but first they forgave each other. They willingly laid their grievances down about the other. They chose with their wills to not take into account the wrongs they had suffered in the past. They chose to think the best of each other, while sharing the worst with each other.
I have been so grateful for this knowledge, that Sean went onto the next life, at peace with this sibling.
Right now, there is hatred and violence and discord all around our world.
The world would be a different place if we saw each other the way God sees us. He sees the total picture, the hurt on both sides, the right on both sides, the wrong, and evil on both sides. He also sees what can be done when we willingly lay our grievances down; when we do not take into account the wrong we have suffered in the past; when we chose to think the best of each other, while being honest about the worst that has happened. God sees what happens when we forgive, as He has forgiven us.
What happens is reconciliation– what happens is peace.
It’s a beautiful thing to see this kind of peace—ask any parent—ask the greatest Parent of all!
It’s a beautiful and encouraging thing!!